Introduction: The holiday season can be a joyful time but also a challenging one for those in recovery. Gatherings, family traditions, and seasonal stressors can introduce triggers and temptations. With a thoughtful plan, access to resources, and a support system, it’s entirely possible to stay on the path of sobriety. This guide offers practical steps, resources, and support options to help make the holidays a season of growth and positive connection.
1. Set Clear Boundaries with Loved Ones
The holidays often bring people together, which can be wonderful but may also introduce stress or pressure, especially if friends or family don’t fully understand your recovery journey. Take some time to consider and set boundaries before gatherings.
Communicate openly with family and friends about your goals to stay sober. Letting them know what to expect and asking for their support can reduce feelings of anxiety or isolation.
If alcohol is likely to be present at a gathering, have a plan in place. This could mean arranging an exit strategy, limiting time spent at events where alcohol is served, or designating a trusted friend or sober buddy to check in with you.
2. Plan Activities that Support Sobriety
Surrounding yourself with sober-friendly activities can make a big difference during the holidays. Seek out events that prioritize well-being and connection over substance use.
Many cities offer sober holiday events, or you could host your own gathering that celebrates the season in a way that aligns with your goals. Activities like holiday movie nights, baking healthy treats, or taking scenic hikes allow you to enjoy the festivities without compromising your sobriety.
Virtual gatherings can also provide a great alternative for those who may want to connect with others in a safe space.
3. Prioritize Self-Care During the Season
Self-care is essential for managing holiday stress. Maintaining your regular routines as much as possible—like prioritizing sleep, eating nourishing meals, and exercising—can help keep your energy balanced and reduce stress.
In addition, mindfulness practices such as meditation or journaling can bring clarity and help you stay centered. A simple daily check-in, perhaps by asking yourself how you’re feeling and what you need, can make a difference.
For those in recovery, daily reflections, gratitude practices, or journaling can help reinforce sobriety goals. Reflecting on how far you’ve come and what you’re thankful for can ground you and strengthen your resolve to maintain a sober lifestyle.
4. Stay Connected to Support Meetings
Consistent connection with others who understand recovery is invaluable. Attending regular support meetings, such as Alcoholics Anonymous (AA) or Narcotics Anonymous (NA), can be a lifeline, especially during stressful times.
In Oklahoma, you can find AA or NA meetings in most cities, and many organizations offer additional meetings around the holidays. For those in or near Broken Bow, the Desire AA group meets at the Step Three, Inc. office at 815 West Choctaw Street, Sunday through Friday at 7 PM and Saturday at noon. These meetings provide a safe, understanding space to share experiences and seek guidance.
For more support, Step Three, Inc. also offers a substance abuse therapy telehealth group for Oklahoma residents, providing a convenient way to connect from home. This resource allows individuals to receive support, even in more rural areas, helping ensure that no one has to go through the holiday season alone.
5. Lean on Your Support System and Use Accountability
Surrounding yourself with supportive people who understand your goals can help you stay accountable. Choose a sober buddy or accountability partner to check in with during the holidays. This could be a sponsor, sober friend, or trusted family member.
Having someone who understands what you’re going through can make a significant difference. A quick call or text can provide the encouragement you need if you’re feeling tempted or stressed.
In moments of vulnerability, talking with someone who supports your journey and believes in your resilience can remind you of the strength you’ve already shown in staying sober.
6. Be Aware of Triggers and Plan Responses
The holiday season can bring unique triggers, such as family dynamics, specific locations, or traditional holiday activities that might have involved alcohol or substances in the past.
Before the season fully begins, take time to reflect on what might be triggering for you. This awareness allows you to plan how you’ll respond or manage situations, whether that’s by setting boundaries, preparing coping strategies, or choosing to skip certain events.
Remember, it’s okay to say no to events or gatherings that might threaten your sobriety. People who care about you will understand, and taking care of yourself comes first.
7. Celebrate Your Milestones and Reflect on Progress
The holidays are a wonderful time to celebrate how far you’ve come on your recovery journey. Reflecting on your accomplishments, no matter how small they may seem, can help reinforce your commitment.
Consider setting new goals for the coming year and noting areas of growth or positive changes you’ve achieved. Small rewards or simple affirmations can serve as meaningful reminders of the strength it takes to remain sober.
Remember that maintaining sobriety is a huge accomplishment, and you deserve to acknowledge the positive steps you’ve taken in your life.
8. Focus on Giving Back to Reinforce Gratitude
Giving back can strengthen a sense of gratitude and purpose. Acts of kindness, like volunteering at a local shelter, donating to those in need, or simply being present for another person in recovery, can keep you grounded.
Helping others can also help you remember the positive reasons behind your sobriety and keep you focused on your goals. Supporting others not only spreads holiday cheer but reinforces your resolve to stay on a healthy path.
9. Keep Important Resources on Hand
Knowing where to turn for immediate support can be comforting. The national 988 number is a valuable resource for anyone in crisis, providing 24/7 support. Additionally, the Oklahoma Department of Mental Health and Substance Abuse Services (ODMHSAS) has resources on their website to support those in recovery.
These resources provide added reassurance that help is available at any time, even if you're navigating the season’s challenges.
10. Create New Traditions that Support Your Sobriety
The holidays are often full of traditions, but if certain traditions are tied to past substance use or no longer feel supportive, consider creating new ones. Building new holiday rituals can help you celebrate in a way that honors your recovery journey.
This might mean starting a morning gratitude practice on holiday mornings, organizing a sober brunch, or inviting friends for a holiday game night. Creating new memories with new traditions helps reinforce that the holidays can be enjoyable and meaningful without substances.
Surround yourself with positive, supportive activities
and people, making the season a time for celebrating your progress and newfound purpose.
Conclusion:
Maintaining sobriety during the holidays is no small feat, but it’s an opportunity to build resilience, foster connections, and grow in self-compassion. By planning ahead, practicing self-care, and reaching out to supportive networks, you can navigate the season with confidence and peace. Remember, the staff at Step Three, Inc. is here to support you every step of the way. Contact us to learn more about our programs, including our substance abuse therapy telehealth group for Oklahoma residents, and how we can help you thrive through this season and beyond.
Disclaimer: This blog post is for informational purposes only and is not a substitute for therapy or professional medical advice. If you or someone you know is in distress, please go to the nearest emergency room or dial 911 immediately.
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